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Riding It Out On Your Own

When you are in the grip of an all-consuming need for discipline, no matter the form it takes, you know you’re going to have to ride it out. Your lack of discipline might last a day or two, or it could go on for much longer. Maybe you’ll have someone you can talk to about it, such as a professional or a friend. I’m available, of course, to coach you through such moments. If you’re really lucky, or just super-organised, you’ll find someone you can partner with to help you deal with it in person. But what if you can’t …

Procrastination

The thief of time. Procrastination is the action of delaying or postponing something that needs to be done. It’s where we put things off, and often, instead of doing the thing we’re meant to do, we put things back in; silly things, useless things, pleasurable things, useful things, endless things…you name it and someone will be doing it! If you put ‘Types of Procrastination’ into a search engine, you’ll see many different categorisations of procrastination. It’s amazing how many models and explanations exist to describe the phenomenon, but not surprising. After all, who of us has not indulged in a little …

I Think, Therefore I Feel

How Conscious Thought Leads to Beneficial Feelings Do not be a slave to your passions. Make them work for you! Strict Jane In my previous article [HERE], I explained how our thoughts create pathways that the mind will default to, and that it is just as easy for the brain to foster a network of supportive thoughts as it is to foster a myriad of unsupportive thoughts. The point is that YOU get to choose which thought pathways you’ll build and strengthen. The same applies in respect to your FEELINGS. You have the ability to consciously encourage a series of …

Are Goats Messing With Your Mind?

You can have control over your thoughts. Seriously. And I’m going to tell you how to do it, right here, for free! Interested? I’m going to explain it as simply as I can, with an analogy…. Imagine your mind as an untouched, grassy hilltop. In this imagining, you are facing a difficult task and you don’t really know how to complete it. A very particular thought then pops into your head: ‘I can’t do it.’ I’m going to turn that thought into a goat…a Thought Goat. Now you have an ‘I Can’t do it’ Thought Goat wandering around the grassy …

When You’re Deep in the…

We’ve all been there at least once in our lives. Stuck in some awful situation that has us out of our depth and feeling paralysed. Whether it’s sitting down for an important exam we did not study for, or a work project that is going badly, or a renovation where termites have been discovered, or Uncle Sam requesting a backlog of business taxes you haven’t saved for, or an accident where you were at fault, or your wife wants a divorce, or anything else that seems awful…the situation feels more like a ‘shit-uation’ when you’re stuck in it. The resulting …

Living Above the Line

I’ve been working with a fascinating client recently. He fascinates me because he lives below the ‘Line of Responsibility’ and it is with such finesse that I find it astounding. I suppose I’ll have to explain this Line concept so that know what I’m talking about, but before I do that, I’ll give you an example of what he gets up to. The other day, he had a deadline to meet, which involved dropping off a delivery of completed goods. He procrastinated in the days before the deadline and the goods were not ready on the day. This is where …

To Feel or Not to Feel, That is the Question

It was Shakespeare’s Hamlet who asked whether it was best to be, or not to be. Whether we live or die is undoubtedly important, but the quality of the life we live will come down to our ability to process our emotions. In other words, it is often our ability to feel that determines whether we want to live or not. This might seem like a strange concept for me to be talking about, yet it is one that rises to the surface in every client interaction I have. I find myself helping people to deal with their emotions time …

Breaking up with 2020

___Dear 2020, you have been dumped like the bad egg you showed yourself to be. So you can stop stalking me with your viral harassment and the accusations that I could have done more to save our relationship. We are done. Good riddance! By the way, I’m now seeing 2021, who is promising me the world, and though our relationship is shiny and new, I am all in with making the best of what we may have together. Our planet has gyrated around the sun once more, and she has spun on her axis in the final, frenzied thrust of a …

Get More Accountability

Get More Accountability

An obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions. Definition of accountability; Merriam-Webster Dictionary What’s the point of Accountability? Accountability lies inherent within every action we take because we are ultimately responsible for our actions, whether we are willing to take responsibility or for those actions or not. The point of accountability is to be aware of it and to make use of it rather than be a victim of it.  Do we need Accountability? Whether we need accountability or not, it remains baked-in. You might instead ask whether we need to make use of it? …

Getting Coached By Me

Don’t be scared by my title of Discipline Coach if all you really want is a Life Coach. I use life coaching skills as the foundation of helping people. You could say that I always operate as a life coach before I add any elements of discipline, so I’ll refer to myself simply as a ‘coach’ in this article. For those with an inbuilt need for discipline, my discipline training is the icing on the cake of life coaching. You can take it or leave it, depending on your tastes. Life coaching with a topping of discipline…anyone? For some, my discipline training is the icing …