To Feel or Not to Feel, That is the Question

It was Shakespeare’s Hamlet who asked whether it was best to be, or not to be. Whether we live or die is undoubtedly important, but the quality of the life we live will come down to our ability to process our emotions. In other words, it is often our ability to feel that determines whether we want to live or not. This might seem like a strange concept for me to be talking about, yet it is one that rises to the surface in every client interaction I have. I find myself helping people to deal with their emotions time …

Getting Coached By Me

Don’t be scared by my title of Discipline Coach if all you really want is a Life Coach. I use life coaching skills as the foundation of helping people. You could say that I always operate as a life coach before I add any elements of discipline, so I’ll refer to myself simply as a ‘coach’ in this article. For those with an inbuilt need for discipline, my discipline training is the icing on the cake of life coaching. You can take it or leave it, depending on your tastes. Life coaching with a topping of discipline…anyone? For some, my discipline training is the icing …

The Fire of a Single Session

How Do You Keep Up the Heat? You’ve felt the heat of Discipline Coaching and you know it’s good for you, so what’s next? Well, there are many benefits you will experience, some of which are immediate while others are more long-lasting. There are various stages you will pass through after a consultation and the trick in staying satisfied is to be aware of the phase you’re in and to know what to do about it. You’ll Pass Through Phases… You can’t expect one lone session to work miracles. As with almost anything in life, there needs to be follow-up …

The Need for Discipline

Why would an adult have a craving for discipline? As a Discipline Coach, I am of the opinion that it is healthy and natural to seek a sense of external order. Discipline efficiently sorts and solves many of the problems and chaos experienced within. After all, most of us started life with at least a semblance of discipline in our family lives, so why should it stop as adults? Let’s examine the relevance of discipline when it is applied in childhood. We all know that children need boundaries. They need to understand that there are consequences when it comes to …

Are Goats Messing With Your Mind?

You can have control over your thoughts. Seriously. And I’m going to tell you how to do it, right here, for free! Interested? I’m going to explain it as simply as I can, with an analogy…. Imagine your mind as an untouched, grassy hilltop. In this imagining, you are facing a difficult task and you don’t really know how to complete it. A very particular thought then pops into your head: ‘I can’t do it.’ I’m going to turn that thought into a goat…a Thought Goat. Now you have an ‘I Can’t do it’ Thought Goat wandering around the grassy …

When You’re Deep in the…

We’ve all been there at least once in our lives. Stuck in some awful situation that has us out of our depth and feeling paralysed. Whether it’s sitting down for an important exam we did not study for, or a work project that is going badly, or a renovation where termites have been discovered, or Uncle Sam requesting a backlog of business taxes you haven’t saved for, or an accident where you were at fault, or your wife wants a divorce, or anything else that seems awful…the situation feels more like a ‘shit-uation’ when you’re stuck in it. The resulting …

Living Above the Line

I’ve been working with a fascinating client recently. He fascinates me because he lives below the ‘Line of Responsibility’ and it is with such finesse that I find it astounding. I suppose I’ll have to explain this Line concept so that know what I’m talking about, but before I do that, I’ll give you an example of what he gets up to. The other day, he had a deadline to meet, which involved dropping off a delivery of completed goods. He procrastinated in the days before the deadline and the goods were not ready on the day. This is where …

Breaking up with 2020

___Dear 2020, you have been dumped like the bad egg you showed yourself to be. So you can stop stalking me with your viral harassment and the accusations that I could have done more to save our relationship. We are done. Good riddance! By the way, I’m now seeing 2021, who is promising me the world, and though our relationship is shiny and new, I am all in with making the best of what we may have together. Our planet has gyrated around the sun once more, and she has spun on her axis in the final, frenzied thrust of a …

Get More Accountability

Get More Accountability

An obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions. Definition of accountability; Merriam-Webster Dictionary What’s the point of Accountability? Accountability lies inherent within every action we take because we are ultimately responsible for our actions, whether we are willing to take responsibility or for those actions or not. The point of accountability is to be aware of it and to make use of it rather than be a victim of it.  Do we need Accountability? Whether we need accountability or not, it remains baked-in. You might instead ask whether we need to make use of it? …